Marshall Rosenberg, creator of Nonviolent Communication said: “The number one reason that we don't get our needs met [is that] we don't express them.”
I would take that a step further. We cannot express our needs if we don’t know what they are!
I started making my own needs cards through intuitive collage over a year ago. I wanted to get to know human needs in general, and I wanted to get to know what my experience of those needs, uniquely, was. Looking at a list of needs, as some recommended, was not helpful for me, because my eyes would glaze over and I would end up staring at nothing.
By choosing one need at a time, and using intuitive images to illustrate those needs, I created incredibly intimate expressions of my inner world. I found I was more easily able to express my needs in moments of conflict. The words for my needs were more readily available in my mind because I did the work of connecting to them in times of peace and learning.